Sunday, February 27, 2011

quick update

It has been awhile since I posted last, I have been so busy with work and the kids school stuff, and Jaren, and soccer season starts soon so I have been working on soccer things since I am on the board.  This month seems like the longest month kind of wierd since it is the shortest month it just will not end!!

Jaren is doing ok he has ups and downs this week has been a down week he has come down with a cold and it has knocked him out completely I think he might be back on the mend this week (hopefully).  Our social worker from Hospice was able to get in contact with the Beehive Home for the elderly and they do day programs for a cost, so she is now working on figuring out a way that he can go to the Beehive home so he doesn't have to be home every day all by himself.  Wednesdays and Fridays Hospice has volunteers that come in and sit with him so I am trying to get him into a program on at least Tuesdays and Thursdays and possibly Mondays. 

I still enjoy my job very much, I work with some amazing people and I enjoy working with the kids that I work with.  The kids are keeping busy with homework and RaKelle and Ashlyn are in the school choir so that takes up some time also.  RaKelle and Jaren and I were able to go to Middle School orientation a couple of weeks ago, I can't believe I have one old enough for Middle School.  She is not very excited she is a little nervous, she decided she wants to play the flute.  This next year is going to be an adventure for all of us.  Ashlyn is really excited for soccer to start again, and she is doing really good in school.  Braxton is the funniest kid he says the craziest things that make you laugh and then he laughs and his laugh makes you laugh harder, needless to say we have a hard time with family prayer.  I don't have much time to do a lot, Jaren's care takes most of my time, but I am happy to do it (most of the time) sometimes he is more work than I want to even think about.  Thanks to the Elders Quorum presidency that took him to a movie this week.  I am so thankful to have good friends close by.  Thanks to Mary and Greg for listening to me complain and anything and for the help that they give me and their willingness to do anything for me.  They watch the kids on short notice a lot and they never complain.

Friday, February 4, 2011

Hello Reality, Welcome to the Gordon House

This week has been crazy and a bit of a reality check for us.  Jaren has been having a hard time with bladder control so we called hospice and they of course were really good and brought some stuff to help out with that, We also made an appointment with McDougal Mortuary and met with them today, that was the real reality check, WOW I knew funerals were expensive but I guess you don't realize HOW expensive they are until you sit down and crunch the numbers.  The lady we met with was really, really sweet and she cared about the situation it seemed, and was so very, very helpful, we picked out caskets and we were put on a payment plan so that I won't have to come up with the money all at once.  I was surprised at how they made it so comfortable to talk about without making it horrible to think about and to plan.  I am so glad we took this important step in the planning and preparing process now I will know for sure what he wants and I DO NOT have to make all of the decisions by myself.  I am really shocked at how they can work payments out for any budget the payments are very reasonable and doable.  It was still very hard to think about, we are still young I should not have to be planning a funeral, I know, I know you should always prepare for stuff like this, BUT I think it would be much easier if we didn't HAVE to think about it and that we could plan it because we wanted to not because we know what is coming!!

After we met with the mortuary I had to take another trip to the Doctor, this time for me.  I have a really bad sinus infection and I let it go on to long because I have had a dull headache for about a month and just figured it was stress, I woke up this morning and my top teeth hurt so bad and my face felt like it was going to blow up.  What a long day!!  The hard part about being sick and being a mom and a caregiver is I don't get a day off I still have things that need to be done and people to take care of, so hopefully the meds will work really quick and I will be feeling better really soon.